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Also. Yesterday, I had a few hours at home between classes, which usually doesn't happen. I was alone, both the roommates were at work.

On the way past Irish Roommate's room to the bathroom, I noticed his bedroom door was open most of the way. It usually isn't, so I, you know, poked a nose in and took a look around. As you do? I don't know if other people would do this, but I would and did.

And I noticed MY HAT on top of a plastic bag full of other stuff by the foot of his bed.

A note about this hat: My grandmother who I never met knit it for my father who later gave it to me. It is a nearly-exact replica of the hat worn by Waldo in the Where's Waldo? books. It's like the fucking crown jewels of my family.

Reader-input section: How do I get my hat back without letting IR know I was peeking into his room? The hat had been sitting in our dining room since after Christmas, so there's no real reason why I would be looking for it right now.

Also, backstory: Last week, I was looking for our flat's two potholders, and English Roommate was going crazy looking for one of our pots. Both of us questioned Irish Roommate, who denied any knowledge of same. This week, all three items are back in their rightful places. ER and I have conferred and ER says he SAW IR bringing them both out of his room, where clearly he had been hoarding them. I don't want to ask him about the hat, deny that he has it, and then keep it for himself to avoid getting caught in the lie.

Aid me, flist! To arms!

Date: 2009-05-15 07:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Go in there and take it! And say nothing.

Date: 2009-05-15 07:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
That was going to be my suggestion. He can't very well complain about how you went into his room without permission... to get back something of yours that he obviously took. :/

Date: 2009-05-15 08:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yeah, I agree. Plus, as an amateur ethicist, I should let you know that if you find a second item of yours in his room, you're free to ransack his drug stash without compunction.

Date: 2009-05-17 03:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
You forget that I read your livejournal, and so while I have no doubts that you are an amateur ethicist, I also have no doubts as to the end result of following your advice.

Date: 2009-05-15 09:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Exactly! It's your hat and if he calls you on entering his room, counter with the "well, why is my hat in YOUR room then? Didn't walk in there, did it?"

Date: 2009-05-15 08:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
If you don't feel comfortable just going in and taking it. Just mention that it's missing casually and you really wish you had it back yadada. I mean if the potholders came back when it was mentioned they were missing maybe your hat will too.

Date: 2009-05-17 03:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yeah, I guess I have no reason to think that he'd continue to hide, or worse, trash it just because I mentioned it was missing.

Date: 2009-05-15 10:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I would just go in and take your hat, it's yours. He shouldn't have it so it's not like he can get angry at you for looking in his room in the first place. If he tries then you just go, "then why do you have our things?"

Date: 2009-05-16 07:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Take it! Obviously he did the same thing. It's yours. And there is no need to say anything if he said nothing either.

Date: 2009-05-16 09:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
This. If it happens again, you can walk into his room and leave an obscurely threatening item in its stead.

Date: 2009-05-17 03:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I would do this in a heartbeat, but where oh where does one get a horse's head in Prague? I can't believe six months here and I still haven't figured this out.

Date: 2009-05-18 11:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Irish Roommate shouldn't have taken something into his room he wasn't certain was his, but to be fair to him, it sounds like the hat sat out so long that he had reasonable cause to think it had been abandoned, or at least was common property.

Normally I would recommend saying to Irish Roommate, "I left my hat here on the dining room table. I should have put it in my room, since it's a beloved family heirloom, but it's gone and I'm worried about it. Have you seen it?"

Claiming some responsibility in somebody else's wrongdoing (whether you're actually responsible or not) is the best way to coax the truth out of them. This gives him a face-saving excuse and the opportunity to be honest when he returns it.

However, since it is a beloved family heirloom, it's more important to get it back than it is to respect Irish Roommate's privacy. I would just get the hat back, pack it securely out of sight, and never speak of it.


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